What Can Men Do?
individuals of both genders are perpetrators of sexual assault, the majority of
those who commit sexual assaults are men. Even so, it is important to remember
that the vast majority of men are not rapists.
are many things men (and women) can do to help prevent sexual violence.
If you see someone in danger of being assaulted:
Step in and offer assistance. Ask if the person needs help.
NOTE: Before stepping in, make sure to evaluate the risk. If it means putting
yourself in danger, call 911 instead.
Donít leave. If you remain at the scene and are a witness, the
perpetrator is less likely to do anything.
If you know the perpetrator, tell him or her that you do not
approve of what s/he is doing. Ask him or her to leave the potential victim
Be an ally:
When you go to a party, go with a group of friends. Arrive
together, check in with each other frequently and leave together.
Have a buddy system. Donít be afraid to let a friend know if
you are worried about her/his safety.
If you see someone who is intoxicated, offer to call him or
her a cab.
If someone you know has been assaulted:
Listen. Be there. Donít be judgmental.
Be patient. Remember, it will take your friend some time to
deal with the crime.
Help to empower your friend or family member. Sexual assault
is a crime that takes away an individualís power, it is important not to
compound this experience by putting pressure on your friend or family member
to do things that he or she is not ready to do yet.
Encourage your friend to report the rape to law enforcement
(call 911 in most areas). If your friend has questions about the criminal
justice process, talking with someone on the National Sexual Assault Hotline,
1-800-656-HOPE can help.
Let your friend know that professional help is available
through the National Sexual Assault Hotline, 1-800-656-HOPE and the National
If your friend is willing to seek medical attention or report
the assault, offer to accompany them wherever they need to go (hospital,
police station, campus security, etc.)
Encourage him or her to contact one of the hotlines, but
realize that only your friend can make the decision to get help.
Changing the culture:
are certain things in our culture that make sexual assault more possible. By
speaking out and educating ourselves and others, we can help to decrease the
number of sexual assaults.
Become knowledgeable about the issue and share your knowledge
Volunteer for RAINN or your local rape crisis center and help
educate your community about preventing sexual violence.