During an argument, or if you feel tension building, avoid areas in your home where weapons might be available – the kitchen, bathroom, bedroom or workshops.
If there are weapons in your household such as firearms – lock them up!
Know where there is a safe exit from your home – a window, elevator or stairwell.
Discuss the situation with a trusted neighbor if you can. Ask them to call 911 if they hear a disturbance. Find a code word to use with them if you need the police.
Always keep a packed bag ready.
Remember that no one ever deserves to be abused. It is not your fault!
Open a bank account in your own name.
Give an extra set of keys, copies of important documents, extra clothes and some money with a trusted friend or neighbor in case you have to leave quickly.
Think about who your best resources are if you need to find shelter or money.
Remember that your safety and that of your children should always come first!
___ Birth certificate(s)
___ Driver's License/ Military ID
___ Social Security Card(s)
___ Insurance documents
___ Money/credit cards
___ Checkbooks, bankbooks
___ Savings bonds
___ Food stamps
___ Copy of your Order of Protection
___ Car registration/ insurance papers
___ Copy of lease/ deed to home
___ Medical and school records
___ Separation/ custody papers
___ Power of attorney/will
___ Medications, prescriptions
___ Keys to home and vehicles
___ Address book/ telephone cards
Keep your Order of Protection with you at all times.
Give photocopies of your Order of Protection to your children's school, your employer, your neighbors, as well as your local police department.
Change the locks on your doors.
Discuss safety plans with your children.
Inform children's school about who has permission to pick up your children.
Ask neighbors to call the police if they see your abuser nearby. Show your neighbors a photo of the abuser and tell them about your Order of Protection.
Ask someone to screen your telephone calls at home and at work.
Have someone escort you to your car or walk with other people if possible.
If communication is necessary between you and your partner, meet in public places or have a third party make contact and relay messages.
Talk with people who can provide you with support on domestic violence issues.
ALWAYS CALL THE POLICE IF YOU ARE CONCERNED FOR YOUR SAFETY!